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| The Enabler: When Helping Hurts the Ones You Love | 
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Sales Rank: 15636
Category: Book
Author: Angelyn Miller
Publisher: Wheatmark
Studio: Wheatmark
Manufacturer: Wheatmark
Label: Wheatmark
Languages: English (Original Language), English (Unknown), English (Published)
Media: Paperback
Edition: 3
Number Of Items: 1
Pages: 120
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.4
Dimensions (in): 8.3 x 5.5 x 0.4
ISBN: 1587360675
Dewey Decimal Number: 362
EAN: 9781587360671
ASIN: 1587360675
Publication Date: October 1, 2001
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DO YOU CONFUSE BEING NEEDED WITH BEING LOVED? DO YOU RELATE TO OTHERS BY TAKING CARE OF THEM? ARE THOSE CLOSEST TO YOU UNABLE TO STAND ON THEIR OWN TWO FEET? Co-dependency--of which enabling is a major dynamic--can and does exist in families where there is no active chemical dependency. Author Angelyn Miller's own experience is a dramatic example: the ultimate "super-mom", neither Miller nor her husband drank. Yet in spite of her best efforts, she found her family disintegrating. The more she tried to help, the worse things got, until she discovered that "helping" was the problem. Using her own family as an example, Miller tells how she came to the painful realization that she was an enabler. The enabler protects others from the consequences of their actions. By always taking responsibility for those around them, enablers hurt the very people they love the most. Gradually, she learned to alter her behavior and broke the cycle of co-dependence. In this book she offers insights, techniques, and hope, showing how enabling relationships can be transformed into healthy ones.
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 I AM AN ENABLER WHO IS ENABLED December 8, 2008
This was a very insightful book for me. Not only did it prove to me that I am an enabler but.....I discovered that my husband enables me. I am truly going to try to change all the enabling going on around me!
Succinct, Helpful Book About Codependent Enabling November 1, 2008
2 out of 2 found this review helpful
*****
Although this book is short, it accomplishes its purpose--to describe enabling and to teach readers how to overcome enabling. It does this through great illustrations from the life of the author about incidents with her husband and son, through descriptions, and through worksheets to help you construct your own recovery plan. I liked that it was short and to the point so that I wasn't wasting my time reading a lot of fluff.
Neither the author nor anyone in her immediate life was involved with alcohol or any other addiction; the book shows how enabling can be something we all can indulge in if we aren't aware.
Highly recommended.
*****
 Good book for any enabler not just for addicts October 18, 2008
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
I learned alot about myself with this book. You realize what you do can actually hurt instead of help. Also it helps to show away to put yourself first.
should have read it four years ago September 22, 2008
3 out of 3 found this review helpful
I could have used this book about four years ago.... For me, I was the enabler and started to go to Alanon meetings about 0ne year ago. Some of the material in this book - I already learned thru Alanon but it was good for me to review it anyway. I truley believe that if you are in an alcoholic or drug situation ---- it is good to learn as much as you can about the disease or problem. I pray for all of you out there that find their life in complete turmoil as they watch a loved one destroy his life and in the end can do a lot of damage both mentally and physically to you. Take care of yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is a strange disease where you find yourself thinking that you are "HELPING" but in reality ---you may be prolonging the problem and keeping the alcoholic from finding the "HELP" that they truley need. My story is ending in a divorce to a man that I still care very deeply for but hate the man that he has become as a result of his disease. He is currently slowly dying in a hospital while his insides are so messed up and not getting any better. I wish that if I had read more books like this earlier --- maybe just maybe things may have been different today.... who knows but, it would have lead me in a different direction and I would have done things differently. God bless each and everyone of you who are painfully going thru this ugly mess.
Must read if you have an Enabler in your family or if you have children April 18, 2008
2 out of 2 found this review helpful
We purchased this book for our family and for other family members. It is a good read to help family members who have Enablers in the family (parents) and is also good if you have children growing up and don't want to Enable them into becoming co-dependent. A good read to make sure your children grow up to have strong self esteems and to become responsible adults. Author could expand more into this area - the parent/child co-dependency area to help families out more in that area.
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